Just Do Your Part: Take the Personal Responsibility Pledge

Get ready, this is a bit of a rant. Nothing happened to set me off. There was no “precipitating event” this morning.  This is just a frustration of mine that has been building for some time. Ready? Here goes… Why do we blame other people when we don’t do everything we can do to fix or change a bad situation? Parents blame teachers and teachers blame parents for poor test scores. Managers blame employees and employees blame managers for poor business results. Parents blame... [Read more]

Being Too Nice Can Hurt You

A few weeks ago, I read an interesting article titled On the Job, Nice Guys May Finish Last. The title immediately caught my attention, and I had to take a look. In reading the article, I saw an immediate connection to my work and for other people interested in using the DISC model in their professional and personal lives. The point made in this article is particularly significant for people with supportive tendencies (people who are people-oriented and reserved). People with strong supportive... [Read more]

A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself

A Question to Ask of Yourself: How do I better control myself? I often hear people ask questions about the DISC model that indicate a desire to use the model to somehow change others. Rather than using the model to label, categorize, or stereotype people, I suggest a different approach: use the DISC model to find ways to connect with other people in better, more effective ways. Towards that end, one question that I suggest you ask yourself is this: How can I use the DISC model to better understand... [Read more]

Why You Might Eventually Do Something You Don’t Want to Do…

… And What You Can Do About It Have you ever told yourself that you wouldn’t do something? Maybe you said you wouldn’t eat too much at a party. Maybe you told yourself that you wouldn’t speak too soon at a meeting. Or maybe you just told yourself that you wouldn’t break the speed limit on the way home from work. Whatever it was, you told yourself that you wouldn’t do something that you either normally do, wanted to do, or habitually do, and you eventually “gave-in”... [Read more]

DISC FAQ’s: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose?

Guy Answers the Question: Can I Change My Personality Style on Purpose? People often tell me that they believe that they have changed their personality style, and then they ask me if I think this is possible. My general answer is this: It might be possible. I don’t think it is probable. In short, I don’t think that your core, inner, basic personality style changes unless you experience some type of major psychological or brain trauma. I do think that you can learn to behave differently... [Read more]

DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

Guy Answers the Question:Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney? As I teach, train, and coach using the DISC model, people hear me say that I encourage them to change their behaviors to fit the situation and to better connect with other people. Sometimes, people ask me if consciously changing behavior is phoney or fake. This concern raises another common question about the DISC model, and how I recommend people use it to connect and communicate more effectively. In answering this question, I often refer... [Read more]

DISC Model FAQ’s: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time

Guy Answers the Question:Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time? People often say that they think they had one personality style as a child and a different one as an adult. While I suppose that is theoretically possible, it is not very likely. I do not claim to be a licensed mental health professional, psychologist, psychiatrist, or neurological system expert. I have spoken with thousands of people in various environments and done lots of reading on the topic. Based on everything I know... [Read more]

How To Control Your Anger: Two Questions To Ask Yourself

Guy Shares Two Questions to HelpYou Control Your Anger A question that often comes up in my conversations and training sessions regarding conflict resolution is this: How do I control my anger? Great question. Sadly, it’s often the wrong question. Anger is not really a primary emotion. It does not come first. It may come quickly. It just doesn’t come first. Anger is generally the result of something else. If you imagine at your emotional container like a bottle filled with a carbonated... [Read more]

DISC Model FAQ’s: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?

Guy Answers the Question:Could I Have More Than One DISC Style? One of the frequent questions that comes up in my training classes on the DISC model of human behavior is: Can more than one DISC behavior style fit a person? or Could I have more than one DISC behavior style? In a word, the answer is: yes. In fact, emphatically yes! The four quadrants of the DISC model do not define four neat and tidy “categories” of people. The four quadrants represent typical or general behaviors of... [Read more]

How To Irritate Others With The DISC Model

Here are five sure-fire ways to irritate other people using the DISC model of human behavior: Tell them how they’re feeling or what they’re thinking. Explain to them why they did what they did or said what they said. Decide for them what they will want from a given situation. Analyze them and their behaviors. Help them to be more like you. I could continue with the list, but I’m sure you see the point. Any time we do any of the above using the DISC model, we are using the model... [Read more]

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