- Reflect on your past.
- Respect the lessons.
- Reengineer your behaviors.
- Reinvent yourself.
This blog is about learning to get out of your own way. It is about learning to take a close look at your thoughts, feelings, responses, and reactions to find better and more effective ways to build and maintain both professional and personal relationships.
I write from the perspective of a person who does not, by nature, enjoy interacting with people, and who has chosen to constantly work on developing the skills necessary to connect, communicate, live, and work effectively with others.
Frankly, the most comfortable place for me is totally and completely alone. I like quiet. I like to think. I like to work. People exhaust me. It doesn’t really matter who they are. Friends, family, coworkers, and strangers all wear me out.
I see the need for positive relationships. I value and respect people. I respect the differences between people. I just don’t like to interact with people.
And – what difference does my preference make?
To live and work in this world, I must live and work with people. I have to get over myself and find ways to understand people.
I’ve been on this journey of self-discovery, self-awareness, and self-control for over a decade now. I have found that working to control myself rather than looking for ways to control others has greatly improved my ability to work with people.
I have moved some content from my first blog – Resolving Conflict In Teams. So, even though this blog is launching in January of 2010, you will find posts from as long ago as 2008.
As the blog develops, I’ll be writing on a broad range of topics – all related to building stronger relationships. I will generally write on leadership, communication, parenting, conflict resolution, and team-building topics.
Some posts will be about business. Some will be about family. Over time, you will find resource recommendations, personal stories, observations, reflections, and posts written from other perspectives (our pet cats will have some posts here from time to time).
Every post will, in some way, relate to building a greater sense of responsibility for our own actions so that we can connect better with others. If you’re looking for quick techniques to get others to do what you want them to do, this is not the blog for you. I write for people who are willing to take a hard look at themselves to find what they have to change in themselves to build better relationships.
I don’t write as a person who thinks that they have it all figured out (although I can come across that way at times). I haven’t arrived. I still make mistakes. I’m still on the journey.
I’m inviting you to go on this journey with me. Let’s connect, interact, and learn from each other.