Guy Answers the Question: Can I Have One
Style at Work & Another Style at Home?
Can I have one DISC style at work and another DISC style at home?
I feel like I am one way at home and another way at work. Is that possible and is it normal?
The simple answer to the question is: “Yes. Differences between your home behaviors and workplace behaviors are not only possible, they are highly probable.”
The longer answer is a bit more involved, but not terribly complex.
When I hear this question or some variation of it, at least two things immediately come to my mind:
- Different environments call for different behaviors. So, you tend to adjust your behaviors to your environment.
- Let's not confuse how we “behave” with who we “are.”
I'll take these two thoughts one at a time.
First, let's recall that very few people exhibit only one DISC style because most of us actually exhibit a blend of the four DISC styles in our everyday behaviors. Since we generally use at least two of the four DISC behavior styles, we can usually “shift” or “float” between our two (or three) primary styles depending on the situation.
Since the workplace environment is often quite different from our home environment (and we usually have different roles in the two environments), we adjust our behaviors to what is appropriate for both the environment and our role in it.
This is completely normal (and probably a good thing!).
The second point is, in some respects, even more important. Our behaviors are our behaviors. They are not who we “are” they are what we “do.”
Our thoughts and emotions reflect who we “are.”
In a full DISC profile assessment, you receive two different DISC behavioral style graphs. One reflects your basic or “natural” DISC style – who you “are.” The other reflects your environmental or “adapted” DISC style – what you “do.”
These two graphs are often similarly shaped. Sometimes they are not. Regardless, they represent two different aspects of your behavioral style. What is happening in your head and emotions and what is showing up in your behavior. While your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are generally connected, they are not necessarily exactly the same (at least as far as other people can see).
For example, have you ever meant to say or do one thing and then said or done something totally different? I have. This doesn't happen frequently. It does happen.
In the interest of brevity, I won't go into all of the details of the distinction between who we “are” and what we “do” in this post. Maybe I'll dig into that topic some other day. For now, I'll leave it at this: it is normal, expected, and highly likely that you will exhibit different behaviors in different environments.
This difference does not necessarily imply that you become a different person in those environments. More likely, it's just a reflection of what you need to do to succeed in the different environments.
This article is from the DISC FAQ's series. Use the links below to read more from this series.
- DISC Model FAQ's: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone?
- DISC Model FAQ's: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?
- DISC Model FAQ's: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home?
- DISC Model FAQ's: Is One Style Better Than the Others?
- DISC Model FAQ's: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time
- DISC Model Frequently Asked Questions
- DISC Model FAQ's: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?
- DISC FAQ's: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose?
- A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself
- Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style
- Why I Use The DISC Model