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DISC Model FAQ’s: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

By Guy Harris

Guy Answers the Question:
Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?

As I teach, train, and coach using the DISC model, people hear me say that I encourage them to change their behaviors to fit the situation and to better connect with other people.

Sometimes, people ask me if consciously changing behavior is phoney or fake. This concern raises another common question about the DISC model, and how I recommend people use it to connect and communicate more effectively.

In answering this question, I often refer to a Thomas Jefferson quote:

In matters of style, swim with the current. In matters of principle, stand like a rock.

As I see it, choosing a behavior, word, or tone that will improve your communication effectiveness is not a moral or ethical issue. It is just a matter of style.

We often change our behaviors for different environments. For example, most people recognize that appropriate behavior during a wedding ceremony is likely to be different from appropriate behavior at the celebration party after the ceremony. Different environments call for different behaviors.

As long as your intent is not to defraud, manipulate, or somehow deceive the other person, behaving in a way that might be uncomfortable or unnatural for you in the interest of connecting with them is not fake or phoney. Rather, I see it as working to create a better environment for the other person.

This article is from the DISC FAQ's series. Use the links below to read more from this series.

  • DISC Model FAQ's: Can Four Styles Really Describe Everyone?
  • DISC Model FAQ's: Could I Have More Than One DISC Behavior Style?
  • DISC Model FAQ's: Can I Have One DISC Style at Work and Another DISC Style at Home?
  • DISC Model FAQ's: Is One Style Better Than the Others?
  • DISC Model FAQ's: Can Your Personality Style Change Over Time
  • DISC Model Frequently Asked Questions
  • DISC Model FAQ's: Is Changing Your Behavior Phoney?
  • DISC FAQ's: Can I Change My Personality Style On Purpose?
  • A DISC Model Question You Should Ask of Yourself
  • Effective Communication Skills: How to Quickly Guess a Person’s DISC Style
  • Why I Use The DISC Model

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