You can use the DISC model to have some fun with other people by watching them stress out when you consciously communicate with them in a way that is different from their preferred style. It's fun and easy to do.
Here are some tips to help you make this happen.
When you are communicating with…
…an outgoing, task-oriented, Dominant style person:
- Speak slowly
- Tell really long-stories
- Give them lots of details they didn't ask for
- Avoid anything that even remotely resembles a decision or results-focused action.
…an outgoing, people-oriented, Inspiring style person:
- Speak in a monotone, boring tone
- Never smile, laugh, or indicate that you enjoy the conversation
- Focus on data and details
- Tell no stories and share no emotions
…a reserved, people-oriented, Supportive style person:
- Speak quickly and loudly
- Stand face-to-face and move your hands wildly while you speak
- Push for quick results rather than listen to their concerns
- Ignore how people feel about a situation
…a reserved, task-oriented, Cautious style person:
- Tell stories with lots of emotional appeal
- Try to get them to be “excited”
- Attempt to persuade them before you have answered all of their questions
- Focus on emotions over facts
The next time you want to frustrate another person, just remember these tips and consciously apply them to create an uncomfortable environment that encourages them to avoid you and disconnect from the conversation.
(This post is totally tongue-in-cheek. Hopefully, you see that I advocate doing exactly the opposite of what I have written here.)
This article is from the Connecting With People series. Use the links below to read more from this series.
- The DISC Model of Human Behavior - A Quick Overview
- Connecting With People
- Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, Task-Oriented People
- Communication Tips: Connecting With Outgoing, People-Oriented People
- Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, People-Oriented People
- Communication Tips: Connecting With Reserved, Task-Oriented People
- Using the DISC Model: How to Create Stress for Other People
- Using the DISC Model: Focus on Needs More than Behaviors